Cynicism: The Poison in the Water

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Have you ever heard that old children’s story called “Chicken Little”? Basically, the premise of the story is that the chicken ran around his barnyard to warn everyone that the sky was falling. He had a “glass half empty” doom and gloom outlook on life. That is what we now call cynicism.

Are You Your Own Worse Cynic?

We would all like to think that we are positive people who have a great outlook on life. However, if that were the case then the world would be a much happier place, right? There is a little cynicism in all of us, but some people seem to color their entire worlds with it. Do you find yourself criticizing your own thoughts each day? Sometimes we can be the worst cynics in our lives. For instance, let’s say you meet a great new business partner. You hear their background and just know that your partnership is going to make you both a lot of money.

Then, out of the recesses your cynicism starts to creep forward. You start to wonder why they would want to partner with you. Are they really who they say they are? If they are so great, why do they need you? Why haven’t they been successful alone? Before you know it, you are talking yourself right out of a new and potentially profitable partnership just because you are second guessing and doubting your own ability to make good decisions.

The Cynics Around You

Then, you have to deal with the cynics that are all around you. They might come in the form of family members, friends or even co-workers. They are always telling you that things can’t be done. They don’t believe that anyone can really make money online. They think any kind of business you get into much be a scam. Everything is dangerous and fraught with disaster in the mind of a cynic. They think the sky is falling from every direction. These are the people who are constantly warning you and reminding you of things that may have happened in the past.

If you are going to learn to be successful, there is no question that you will encounter cynics all along the way. In fact, watch the nightly news and you will hear warnings galore. While you should pay attention to legitimate information, you cannot move about your life being worried about what could happen. However, you must learn to separate real information from the kind of “information” that cynics spread. These are typically people who spread fear around and never really do anything constructive. They spend their time scaring others and keeping them from achieving their own dreams.

By analyzing what is in front of you, then you are able to make decisions in a well planned manner. By following a cynic’s advice, you are closing yourself off to possibilities. You will be blinded by the misinformation.  If you find that you spend your day thinking about things that you DON’T want to happen, then you can be sure that you are allowing that doubt and fear to overtake your logical mind.

Here is one way to look at it: When you look around you at your family, friends and co-workers, what are they doing with their lives. Let’s say that your mother is constantly giving you “advice”. You know she loves you and means well, but she has no money and a dead end job that she hates. Why in the world would you take advice from a person who is living the opposite kind of lifestyle from what you want? Why would her opinions on the stock market being too dangerous be helpful to you?

On the other hand, let’s say your best friend’s Dad is wealthy and successful. He started with nothing and has made millions in the stock market. He tells you not to invest in a particular stock because he has experience and knows how to play the game. This might be someone that you should not write off as a cynic, but as an experienced business person. Then, you can listen to his advice and decide if it is something you want to follow.

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